PARENTING STYLES 1
We are all aproduct of parenting, family governance, and this is the centralinput from our childhood throughout to adulthood. Parentinginfluences the way we grow and behave in our entire lifetime (Kelly,2013). Parenting styles are the numerous methods that parents use toraise their children. Parenting styles can be determined by differentcomponents such as:
Style of discipline
Expectations for control and maturity
Therefore, all these components can have various results on childrendevelopment. A component such as discipline always has a biggereffect on the type and course of relationship parents will have withtheir children. Various approaches to child upbringing willdefinitely influence their mood and temperament into adulthood(Kelly, 2013). Psychology has led to the discovery of the parentingstyles, and the styles are dependent on specific parental needs.Every parenting style has its unique and identifying characteristicsthat define a parent and the reactions of their children, in thegrowth and development course (Plotnik&Kouyoumdjian, 2010).
According to the research, four main parenting styles have beencommonly used to raise children. Below is their reviews:
Authoritarian parenting style
In this parenting style, the parents are fully strict verydemanding, establish very strict rules and provide no exceptions forcompromise of the rules. One way is always followed, “the parentway.” Their decision is final. They do not want any sort ofchallenges from their children. Therefore, such parents obviouslywant their children to maintain exceptional maturity at all times.More often than not, the parents usually rely on punishment to demandobedience. It is a form of parenting style that involves no or fewoccasions of dialogue. As a result, such children from this parentingstyle often have a low self-esteem. They become angry and aggressivebecause of the punishment methods they get, rather than beinginvolved in problem solving and decision making (Plotnik&Kouyoumdjian, 2010).
Authoritative parenting style
In this parenting style, children are allowed to be assertive andself-regulating, being involved in the decision making, and at thesame time abiding by the rules and expectations that their parentshave established. The parent is less restrictive, more democratic,and often prefers consequences rather than punishing. It isuniversally regarded as one of the most effective, mutual(beneficial) parenting style for raising healthier children. Thesechildren often perform very well in school, adjust very well in thesociety, and are cooperative and, at least, responsible (Plotnik&Kouyoumdjian, 2010).
Permissive parenting style
Permissive parents are exceptionally warm, undemanding, notrestrictive and very responsive towards their children choices. Theseparents are overly nurturing and also will provide a bigger room fortheir children’s self-regulation. The parent is excessivelyfriendly to his/her children, and this is sometimes confusing becausethe children are given excessive freedom or allowance in decisionmaking. The parents will only step in when they feel it is“necessary.” Children may be given gifts or surprises just to beless demanding to their parents. Often, such parents will have anattitude that “kids will be kids anyways” (Plotnik&Kouyoumdjian, 2010).
Neglectful/Uninvolved parenting style
This is the worst parenting style. Parents neglect their duties, andthus expect their kids to look after themselves. There is littleconnection between the child and his/her parent. Few or no demandsare placed to the children the parent is less involved in thechild’s emotional and physical needs. Such parents usually havesubstance abuse problems or mental health issues. As a result,children form this parenting style, have a low self-esteem, andperform poorly in school (Plotnik&Kouyoumdjian, 2010).
In the current American culture, Authoritative parenting style hasbeen widely used as the best method of raising children. It isclearly seen with the development level of the US-the economic boom,infrastructure advancements. Such product is the input of healthier,educated and disciplined children who grow up as mature adults whoare very resourceful and helpful towards their country’s growth.The American culture maintains a high literacy level as compared toother developing countries, and this means that the adults had abetter upbringing when they were younger. As the years progress, thegovernment and other significant stakeholders have progressivelyencouraged better parenting standards that will result to a normal,healthier society that also compounds to a fruitful nation.Undoubtedly, it is the Authoritative parenting style that isso rational, and that can result to such exemplary standards.
An example that clarifies my position is the high performance ofAsian-American kids that are normally top in academics and generalsuccess. Their parents normally employ authoritarian parentingmethods.
Kelly, JW. (2013). Family Life Now. 2nd Edition. PearsonPublisher.
Plotnik, R &Kouyoumdjian, H. (2010). Introduction to Psychology. Belmont, CA:Wadsworth Publishing.